Friday, October 26, 2012

Answer: Thank You

Excuse me why I jump onto this  soapbox for a moment. I think I might have to start making Fridays "Feminist Fridays". As most of you know, I have strong feelings when it comes to this topic!* So here you are...

*Disclaimer: I went to an all girls Catholic high school and have a firecracker for a mother. Feminism is in my blood.

1. When someone compliments you, whether it be a man or a woman. Your answer? Thank you.
Stop deflecting the comment or immediately disagreeing with them. Stop saying they are too nice but obviously lying. Hold your head high and say "thank you" with confidence. Whatever they are commenting on, whether it be your shoes, those 5 pounds you lost, the report you gave in your meeting, the cool Halloween wreath you made for your door, just look them in the eye and say "thank you".

2. Dress for the career you want, not the career you have. I will definitely be posting a "wear this, not that" office post in the near future, but keep in mind you never know who you are going to run into and who is watching. A blazer can be just as comfortable as a sweatshirt. And for goodness sake don't ever let me catch you with rubber flip flops in an office!! They should rename it "Snappy Casual Friday". I will be the first to admit, sometimes I'm so lazy I'm in jeans and a sweatshirt. But, c'mon people, flip flops are not OK.

3. Did you know that men in the workplace are more likely to accept credit for achievements and vocalize their successes? Women are more likely to distribute credit for work they've done and downplay their achievements. (Frustrating!!) This tendency comes from men being more comfortable working independently and in order of rank, while women gravitate towards working in groups/teams where everyone is on an equal  playing field. This isn't bad. Neither way is successful all the time, but it does make us our own worst enemy sometimes.
I know you don't want to come across as an arrogant B, and yes, there is a thin line because people are quick to judge successful women, BUT please, for the sake of women everywhere, own your achievements! Let your boss praise you for working hard and bite your tongue when you want to say "well it was a group effort".

We still have a long way to go with gender equality in the workforce. Women only make 77.5 cents for every dollar a man makes, and it's even less for those in executive level positions. That's an issue.

However, there is some good news. Read this.

Below is my favorite excerpt. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy :)

"These days, 57 percent of college students are women. Single and childless women are out-earning men in the same situation. And even though men continue to dominate the highest-paying jobs, women now hold their own in a wide variety of lucrative careers. They make up a third of physicians, 54 percent of accountants, 45 percent of law associates, and they have about a half of all banking and insurance jobs.

Those statistics, many of which appeared in The Atlantic in Hanna Rosin's article the "The End of Men" have received a lot of attention -- not just because of their nod to the rise of women, but to the possibility that men are losing their dominance. But the trends also raised a number of provocative questions.
Are women, with their strong communication skills and social savviness, more equipped to thrive in our modern digital age? Are men becoming unnecessary? Or are we just working our way to a new normal, where men and women develop a different set of expectations for themselves and each other? And do we need to start looking for ways to help the groups of men that are struggling to keep up?"

Lessons for the day? 1. Ladies, let's do each other a favor and make us ALL look good! 2. Women are taking over the world. It's about time.

Girl Power!



  1. 1. Remember when I used to be socially retarded? I used to ignore every single compliment I ever got. Then I grew up and realized how incredibly annoying it is.
    2. I want to be a biological anthropologist (like, seriously...) Does that mean I get to wear hiking boots and a backpack to work?! Except that I work in an office for now? Ha, that'd be fun.
    3. I have 2 gay bosses. They're still men. They constantly pat themselves and each other on the back for being "masters of the universe." I'm aware of this fact and make sure they know when I work late.
    Carry on feminist Kali. Carry on.

  2. GREAT blog!! And great topic. I especially liked the section on graciously accepting thank yous. I hope you don’t mind me visiting :) it’s always good to find fellow Kentucky bloggers!!


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