Friday, October 26, 2012

Answer: Thank You

Excuse me why I jump onto this  soapbox for a moment. I think I might have to start making Fridays "Feminist Fridays". As most of you know, I have strong feelings when it comes to this topic!* So here you are...

*Disclaimer: I went to an all girls Catholic high school and have a firecracker for a mother. Feminism is in my blood.

1. When someone compliments you, whether it be a man or a woman. Your answer? Thank you.
Stop deflecting the comment or immediately disagreeing with them. Stop saying they are too nice but obviously lying. Hold your head high and say "thank you" with confidence. Whatever they are commenting on, whether it be your shoes, those 5 pounds you lost, the report you gave in your meeting, the cool Halloween wreath you made for your door, just look them in the eye and say "thank you".

2. Dress for the career you want, not the career you have. I will definitely be posting a "wear this, not that" office post in the near future, but keep in mind you never know who you are going to run into and who is watching. A blazer can be just as comfortable as a sweatshirt. And for goodness sake don't ever let me catch you with rubber flip flops in an office!! They should rename it "Snappy Casual Friday". I will be the first to admit, sometimes I'm so lazy I'm in jeans and a sweatshirt. But, c'mon people, flip flops are not OK.

3. Did you know that men in the workplace are more likely to accept credit for achievements and vocalize their successes? Women are more likely to distribute credit for work they've done and downplay their achievements. (Frustrating!!) This tendency comes from men being more comfortable working independently and in order of rank, while women gravitate towards working in groups/teams where everyone is on an equal  playing field. This isn't bad. Neither way is successful all the time, but it does make us our own worst enemy sometimes.
I know you don't want to come across as an arrogant B, and yes, there is a thin line because people are quick to judge successful women, BUT please, for the sake of women everywhere, own your achievements! Let your boss praise you for working hard and bite your tongue when you want to say "well it was a group effort".

We still have a long way to go with gender equality in the workforce. Women only make 77.5 cents for every dollar a man makes, and it's even less for those in executive level positions. That's an issue.

However, there is some good news. Read this.

Below is my favorite excerpt. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy :)

"These days, 57 percent of college students are women. Single and childless women are out-earning men in the same situation. And even though men continue to dominate the highest-paying jobs, women now hold their own in a wide variety of lucrative careers. They make up a third of physicians, 54 percent of accountants, 45 percent of law associates, and they have about a half of all banking and insurance jobs.

Those statistics, many of which appeared in The Atlantic in Hanna Rosin's article the "The End of Men" have received a lot of attention -- not just because of their nod to the rise of women, but to the possibility that men are losing their dominance. But the trends also raised a number of provocative questions.
Are women, with their strong communication skills and social savviness, more equipped to thrive in our modern digital age? Are men becoming unnecessary? Or are we just working our way to a new normal, where men and women develop a different set of expectations for themselves and each other? And do we need to start looking for ways to help the groups of men that are struggling to keep up?"

Lessons for the day? 1. Ladies, let's do each other a favor and make us ALL look good! 2. Women are taking over the world. It's about time.

Girl Power!


Wednesday, October 10, 2012

October in the Bluegrass

I don't have much time to post something fancy. Work, moving, and travel are keeping me too busy to do much of anything. So here are some updates in Kaliwood. Welcome to Fall in the Bluegrass! ((Will be rocking my riding boots for the first time this year on Friday.. I can't describe my excitement!))

  • Last weekend was the Susan G Komen Race for the Cure 5K in downtown Lexington. The family came down to walk in it, and Tim and I ran. Dave, Justine, and Lee also ran! (Dave also came to brunch with my family, just so you know!) I haven't run in that cold of weather before (it was pretty chilly) and it was tough on the throat breathing in that cold air. But I did it! Tim refused to train before hand but was a runner in college so he had no problem running at my pace the entire time. My first ever 5K time was 30:11. My goal was just to beat that. Well my official time was 30:13. I failed by 2 seconds. UGH. I blame the beginning of the race when we were trying to maneuver out of the big bunches of crowd, since the first race had a much smaller group. But, in the end, I pretty much did the same. There's always next time!

Wow, we look rough!

  • The moving process is just that.. a process. Mom and Dad (and Derek and Tim!) were a huge help last weekend moving all the big furniture in the van. Almost eveything is moved. I still have stuff to put in boxes and bring over, but I can do that next week. Even though everything is at Tim's, though, it's mostly in boxes in the dining room. So next week I will have to start going through everything and finding a place to put things. Just looking at that massive pile stresses me out. But I have managed to go through all of my clothes (drawers and closet) and Tim's clothes too. We got rid of a bunch and I packed away my summer items to save room. Now onto the shoes... which may be a bigger task. Sigh.
    Dad and Derek on moving duty

  • Tonight we are leaving for Shittsburgh Pittsburgh. Actually, we are stopping in West Virginia tonight and then heading to PA tomorrow afternoon. Tim's friend is getting married Saturday night and he's going to the bachelor party Thursday night. I will spend Thurs night and Fri morning studying.. yay. But the wedding should be fun and I'm really excited to finally meet all of his friends!

  • Work is crazy because its the AVCA and it's the Fall. Pretty much speaks for itself. Things won't calm down until after Convention in December. But, I can't say I don't love the chaos. Makes it fun.

  • Next Wednesday I am getting Invisalign. I will be wearing them for a year and a half and the adventure starts next week. Wish I could say I was pumped for that! At least you won't be able to hear my lisp when reading my blog.

  • Next weekend: Going to Keeneland! 

  • Weekend after: Halloween Party! A bunch of the girls are going to be My Little Ponies. When researching which one I was going to be I came across "Shady". Hot pink and neon yellow with sunglasses as her cutie mark. Pretty much sums me up!  
"Shady" My Little Pony

 Hope you have a Relaxing Weekend!!

Oliver Senior aka "Ollie"


Monday, October 1, 2012

Kaliwood Fashion Awards: 2012 Emmy's

I'm a regular "Fashion Police" watcher on E! News, especially when there is a red carpet! (#suckerforawardshows). But since I didn't 100% agree with their choices for the 2012 Emmy's, I thought I'd share my own opinions! And I made up a couple of my own categories :)

They were correct, however, in how many GREAT looks there were. They were spitting out "Best Dressed Nominee" every 5 seconds! But it's true, a LOT of these stars looked fabulous. It's like they all fired their old stylists and got real ones! So, it made it hard to pick my favorites, but I narrowed it down to 3. Check out the Kaliwood Awards below!


Julie Bowen in Monique Lhuillier


Ginnifer Goodwin in Monique Lhuillier 


January Jones in Zac Posen


This dress could have been FABulous.. on someone taller.She's too short, sorry! And needed a little less fabric.

Hayden Panettiere in Marchesa


Tina Fey usually looks like a hot mess! Way to go this time, giiirl.

Tina Fey in Vivienne Westwood


There were a handful of bad ones to pick from but had to go with my girl Ashley.
This is only because I LOVE HER and know she can do better than this tacky number!

Ashley Judd in Carolina Herrera


Photos courtesy of