Friday, January 4, 2013

Feminist Friday: Perceptions

Happy Feminist Friday, lovelies! Today's topic: Perceptions of Others

This may not be obviously relevant for a Feminist Friday, but I believe being a strong woman is about more than being a confident, professional person. I think it's also about being a good person and treating others with respect and kindness.

Those who know me know that I am a big fighter for not judging people on how they look, but on who they are as a person. I envision a world where people can look past race, gender, age, sexual orientation, size, hair color, and all the other factors that don't make a person WHO they are.  It's a losing battle most of the time, but I will always be an advocate for this.

The reason I thought of this topic for my post today was because my friend Rennay came to visit last weekend. (If you haven't read her blog, do it!!) I was recalling the first time we met and it got me thinking...

In high school I got a job as a hostess for TGI Friday's. I had been working there for a year or so when Rennay started her first day as a hostess and we were scheduled for the same shift. At first we were a bit leery of each other but eventually became good friends and found that we have a lot in common.

Why do I bring this up, then? Because after we had become friends I remember her telling me about that first day we met. She said as soon as she saw me she thought, "Oh great. Another airhead blonde that I'm going to have to deal with." She pretty much assumed I was a dumb blonde who would be difficult to work with.

But I had an incorrect perception about her too. She was SO quiet when we started that first shift, and I'm so talkative, that I initially thought, "Oh great. Here is a mute girl who probably can't get anything accomplished. Yawn."

I remember us laughing at how wrong she was. How wrong we both were! Because we both are hard workers, organized, and know how to get a job done. I promise you there was not a more efficient seating system in any other Friday's across the nation than when Rennay and I were on the job. And once she gets to know you, Rennay totally opens up and talks just as much as I do. And I'm not always an airhead!

So it made us laugh that we judged each other in those first few minutes, and were totally wrong. Luckily, we were stuck together long enough to get to know each other and are still friends to this day.

Throwback photo from College of Rennay and myself

I know that we ALL do this to people we come in contact with, including myself. But I try, and urge others to try, to put that initial perception aside, and put opinions of others aside, to truly get to know someone before you form an opinion of them. Even if they turn out to be a rotten person like other people told you, at least you gave them the chance to prove themselves to you first. Because you will be surprised how some people can, and will, surprise you.

Happy FF ladies! Have a great weekend!


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