Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Good Morning America Gender Role Conversation Goes from 2015 to 1950 in Two Seconds




(Jump on the treadmill. Turn on the attached TV and find Good Morning America. Plug my headphones into my phone for some running music. Flip on the closed caption for the TV.) 

(Listen to the cast talk about Kristin Cavallari's Instagram photo of tweets from her NFL husband.)

Oh, I really like Kristin. She never takes things too seriously. 

How funny that she shared those texts from Jay.

Wow, this is a positive conservation about gender roles. You go, GMA! Look at you modern men and women shedding a positive, light-hearted perspective on this tough subject.

Oh, wait. Did he just say that? Surely he didn't mean... I must have read that wrong.

Oh no. No no no. Stop. You're digging yourself in a hole. 

Shit. This is taking a bad turn. 

Oh now he's chiming in. He's going to say it isn't he? Don't do it! Don't do it! Nooooooooo!!!

Damnit.

Another one bites the dust.

(Pause treadmill. Grab phone. Open blogger. Start typing.)


GMA was discussing gender roles. They got on this topic because Kristin Cavallari shared tweets from her husband where he was struggling with the kids and wanted her home as soon as possible. Kristin posted it because it was funny. And it is.

The cast starts agreeing how great it is that more men are stepping up in the home and caring for the kids. They mention how more women have careers and therefore home responsibilities are no longer solely the woman's job.

Great, right?

Then one of the men mentions how men jut aren't really made for that role. Yes, they are trying but they aren't really made to be a mom.

Um...duh? 

Men aren't moms...they are DADS. And dads are more than capable of caring for children. Stop calling a man who is watching his own child a "mom". HES A DAD.

Then one of the male hosts say something along the lines of "We need to stay in our lane. We can take some of your roles but not everything." (Quotes are paraphrased as I was reading CC.)

What??

Let me enlighten you, sir. Parenting is one big trip. And your wife and you are not only in the same lane, you're in the same car. So you mean to tell me if she falls asleep in the drivers seat you're not going to grab the wheel? Because it's not your role?

Good luck with that.

And then they crashed and burned. I believe it was the same host who said "If I do the dishes or make the bed my wife just goes right behind me and does it all again because I do it wrong." Implying he might as well not bother.

((I'm so sick of  men using that excuse. That's like a woman saying "Well I'd like to have a career but I know I won't be as good at it as my husband so I might as well not try."))

I call bullshit.

I don't believe your wife does that. And if she does, you both deserve each other.

If your husband/finance/boyfriend takes on some of the tasks at home and you then complain how he does them or redo it after him... I mean.. I have no words.

Let's just say that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

I'm not saying men are simple minded creatures and should be praised up and down for doing simple chores. And I'm not saying since they are men and shouldn't HAVE to do chores, we should praise them up and down. I'm saying, both people in the home should share responsibilities, regardless of their gender. And one person should not criticize the other for doing their part.

So, thank you to Good Morning America for totally blowing what started out as a positive gender conversation.

I better skip work today so I can head home and make sure my pots and pans are properly stored by size and weight.


5 comments:

  1. Didn't see this, but good grief. I know several couples where the Dad is stay at home. This is why I avoid news and live TV. Happy Wednesday!

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  2. I didn't see this, but you totally hit it on the head. A man in not a "mom" he is a dad! Great post!

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  3. I didn't see this, but it bugs me when people talk about "a man's role" vs "a woman's role". My husband and I split house chores 50/50. It doesn't make him less of a man. In fact, it makes him a wonderful husband. And dads have just as much of a responsibility as the moms do. Both people created the children why should one be responsible for the care.

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  4. You did a great job writing this. I loved you comparing roles to being in the "same car." I know my dad likes to every now and then talk about how we should stick to "our ways," but I always try to put him in his place because my experience with my parents has always been that of watching them compromise. And I don't even know if they realize it, but I think that's one thing that's been beneficial to our household.

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  5. You're starting to sound just like your grandmother - "that's the dumbest thing I'very ever heard!"

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